Helping you let go of the past and conquer your future.
Therapy for men in person or online in Minnesota
You look successful, but feel like you’re barely holding it together…
You wake up and push through — running meetings, hitting deadlines, keeping up appearances. On the outside, it looks like you’ve built the life you were aiming for. But inside, it feels like you’re running on fumes.
The pressure never lets up. Even when you’re “winning,” it doesn’t feel like enough. You carry the weight quietly — the stress, the irritability, the restless nights, the sense that no matter what you do, it doesn’t measure up.
To get by, you’ve found ways to take the edge off — maybe it’s porn, a few drinks, staying late at work, or zoning out with your phone. They give a quick break, but they don’t touch what’s underneath. And when the relief fades, you’re right back in the same cycle: pushing harder, carrying more, and wondering how much longer you can keep going like this.
Most days, it feels like you’re holding it all together on the outside while quietly battling the weight you don’t let anyone see.
To try and deal with it all you…
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It started as a way to relax or escape, but now it's become a regular habit that leaves you feeling more frustrated and disconnected. You find yourself reaching for it when the pressure builds, even though it only offers short-term relief and long-term guilt.
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At the end of the day, a drink or a hit helps quiet your racing thoughts and anxiety … at least for a little while. But over time, you’ve noticed you're relying on it more than you'd like, and it’s getting harder to manage stress without it.
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You care deeply about the people in your life, but it’s hard to connect or open up. It feels easier to stay guarded, avoid tough conversations, and keep emotions bottled up to save from burdening them, even when you know it's creating distance with your partner or family.
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The constant pressure leaves you feeling drained and on edge. Small things set you off, patience feels thin, and even when you’re achieving, it doesn’t feel like enough. You wake up, do the work, check the boxes, but it all feels flat and exhausting.
Dan VerBout, MBA, MA, LPCC
Certified Brainspotting Therapist
Hi, I’m Dan. I work with men who are successful on the outside but feel the pressure, stress, or hidden struggles underneath. My background in Brainspotting, somatic therapy, and mind–body approaches means I help you go deeper than surface-level coping. Together, we’ll get to the real root of what’s weighing you down—so you can finally move forward with more clarity, freedom, and ease.
What sets my work apart is that I won’t hand you cookie-cutter advice or quick fixes. Instead, I’ll meet you exactly where you are—with respect, curiosity, and practical strategies that help you untangle what feels overwhelming. I know how to sit with the hard stuff and help you move through it, not around it.
You’ve already proven you can push through. The next step is about finding a way to actually feel good while you do it. And that’s the work we’ll do together.
What therapy can help you with.
Burnout, stress, and feeling constantly on edge
You’re always in go-mode, balancing work, home, and the never-ending to-do list. But the constant stress wears you down, leaving you tense, irritable, and exhausted. Therapy for burnout and chronic stress helps you take control of your mental health, reduce anxiety, and stop feeling like you’re running on empty all the time.
Porn, sex, or intimacy issues
Maybe porn started as a way to relax, but now it feels like you need it to unwind or escape. You’re not alone. Many men struggle with porn addiction, sex-related stress, or intimacy problems that affect confidence and relationships. Therapy for men with porn addiction and intimacy issues can help you break unhealthy habits, rebuild real connection, and feel in control again.
Coping with alcohol, weed, or compulsive behaviors
The after-work drink, the late-night smoke — they help take the edge off, but only for a while. Over time, you notice you’re depending on them more than you want. Therapy for men who use alcohol, weed, or compulsive habits to cope helps you manage stress in healthier ways, without feeling like you’re constantly fighting to stay balanced.
Unresolved trauma and emotional numbness
You’ve learned to push through and not dwell on the past, but some things don’t just go away. Unresolved trauma can show up as emotional numbness, anger, or feeling disconnected from your life. Therapy for trauma helps you work through what’s buried and finally feel present, grounded, and fully alive again.
High-functioning anxiety and overthinking
From the outside, you’re successful. Inside, your mind never shuts off. You overthink everything — decisions, conversations, what-ifs. Therapy for high-functioning anxiety helps you quiet the constant noise, reduce overthinking, and feel more at ease, even in high-pressure situations.
Feeling disconnected in relationships
You care about your family and partner, but sometimes it feels like there’s a wall you can’t break through. You pull back emotionally, avoid certain conversations, or just feel distant without knowing why. Therapy helps you reconnect, communicate better, and build stronger, healthier relationships without sacrificing your independence.
Men’s mental health and emotional regulation
You were never really taught how to handle emotions — you just kept it together and powered through. But carrying that weight alone isn’t working anymore. Therapy for men’s mental health gives you real tools to handle emotions, stress, and challenges in a way that fits who you are — without losing your edge or feeling weak.
How it works
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Reach out today to schedule a consultation or to set up an intake. This is an opportunity to share a bit more about what brought you to my website and the goals you have for the future. Being comfortable with who you work with is one of the best predictors of success!
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We work together to define your goals on this journey. I believe counseling should be collaborative, relational, and supportive and I will walk alongside you during your process of becoming your best self. This may include the use of Brainspotting or more traditional talk therapy.
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Some may experience immediate change and relief and for others it may be more gradual. Everyone’s counseling process is different and that is okay! Often we are planting seeds in session that will grow between sessions. We are infinitely complex and there is often more than one “root cause” of challenges we experience.