Reclaim Control and Rediscover Yourself.
When unwanted sexual behaviors, pornography use, or substance use begin to take over, it can leave you feeling isolated, ashamed, and disconnected from the people who matter most. You don’t have to stay stuck in that cycle — real change is possible.
Therapy for men in Minnesota
Helping men find freedom from difficult behaviors and rebuild trust within themselves and their relationships.
You do not need to struggle in silence any longer
Many men carry silent battles — using pornography, sex, or substances to provide relief from stress, anxiety, or emotional pain. Over time, these behaviors can start to control your life, damage your relationships, and erode your sense of confidence and integrity.
You may have tried to manage it on your own or promised yourself you’d stop — but will power alone rarely reaches the deeper roots of why these patterns exist.
Dan VerBout, MBA, MA, LPCC
Brainspotting Consultant In Training
Hi, I’m Dan. I specialize in helping men uncover and heal the emotional and nervous system patterns driving their the behaviors they want to give up. My approach integrates Brainspotting, Somatic Therapy, and Polyvagal Theory — powerful, brain-based methods that go beyond talk therapy to help your body and nervous system work through what’s been stuck.
Together, we’ll work to:
Calm your nervous system and reduce urges or compulsions.
Address the underlying emotional pain and shame that fuel your behaviors.
Rebuild trust, intimacy, and connection in your relationships.
Develop a grounded sense of confidence and self-control.
Why Work With Me
I’m a Licensed Psychotherapist in Minnesota, a Brainspotting Consultant in Training, and have advanced training in Somatic Experiencing and Polyvagal Theory. This blend of expertise allows me to help men access healing at a deeper, body-based level — creating lasting change rather than short-term fixes offered by most programs and therapists.
Clients often tell me they feel seen, understood, and respected in a way they haven’t before. My goal is to create a space where you can show up fully, without judgment, and begin the process of reclaiming your life.
Begin Your Process of Change
You don’t have to keep struggling in silence. Whether your behaviors are starting to impact your relationships or you’re ready to finally overcome what’s driving them, this is your place to start.
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Reach out today to set up an intake. This is an opportunity to share a bit more about what brought you to my website and the goals you have for the future. Being comfortable with who you work with is one of the best predictors of success!
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We work together to define your goals on this journey. I believe therapy should be collaborative, relational, and supportive. I will walk alongside you during your process of becoming your best self. This may include the use of Brainspotting, Somatic Experiencing or more traditional talk therapy.
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Some may experience immediate change and relief and for others it may be more gradual. Everyone’s therapy process is different and that is okay! Often we are planting seeds in session that will grow between sessions. We are infinitely complex and there is often more than one “root cause” of challenges we experience.